Yesterday I was working on one of the elements of my new coaching service for parents and it was all about confidence.
And in truth, this topic foxed me for all a while. We all say we need more confidence in particular areas of our lives, however have you ever wondered what confidence is?
Is it a feeling? A belief? Or knowledge you are confident in say driving the car, using a pc, cooking dinner, delivering a killer presentation?
And how can you instill confidence in yourself and others?
After researching what confidence is, I was surprised to find that many of the reference books coaches use, confidence is not specifically covered by them.
So yesterday I faced a tricky situation – if I couldn’t articulate what confidence is, how can I help clients increase theirs?
In a nutshell, I came to this understanding – confidence is a mindset. It’s what you tell yourself about you. There is only one person who can change this and that’s you. Other people can help you improve it but ultimatley it’s only you that controls what you think and believe. And this bit is really important - you control whether to accept what others say about you.
Obviously it’s more complicated than just saying it’s a mindset and there is work you can do to change this mindset, which I explore further in my coaching service. What I can share with you, are some simple rules:
- be kind to yourself – become your own cheerleader
- forgive yourself for any blunders (accept no-one is perfect)
- learn from these blunders
- turn your inner voice down that tells you can’t do something
- think more – I can do this
- celebrate your success and where necessary…
- fake it!
If you want to learn more about how to increase your confidence than e-mail me at rachel@rachelsmithlifecoach.com or call 07501 265 783 and book in for no obligation chat about increasing your confidence and more.
And if you are interested in finding out more about the new coaching service for parents coming in April, check out the new Parents-Your Time page on the website and log your interest.
